10 WAYS TO SHOW LOVE TO BLACK MEN AND WOMEN

10 WAYS TO SHOW LOVE TO BLACK MEN- THE SELF CARE SNOB

Black men navigate a world that takes more from them than it gives— demanding their strength, resilience, and sacrifice while offering very little in return. Not often, are they praised for how much they endure and rarely cherished for who they are at their core. If we are to love them fully, it must be in a way that replenishes, not just requires;that affirms,not just admires. Love must be a refuge where they can lay down their burdens, where their minds are stimulated, their spirits uplifted, and their humanity held sacred. Because Black men deserve love that heals,not just love that expects.

I created this list as a sacred reminder that, as Black women, Black men are our divine counterparts—the echoes of our spirit, the guardians of our love, and the other half of a legacy written in our very existence. We are not separate, we are mirrors of each other’s strength, balance, and becoming. To honor black men is to honor ourselves. In their rise, we rise, and in their healing, we too are made whole.

1. Be His Intellectual Match, Not Just His Comfort A Blackman’s world of noise—opinions, expectations, and pressures pulling him in every direction. But few spaces challenge him to think,reflect, and grow. Be a source of mental stimulation, a woman who engages his ideas,sharpens his logic, and expands his perspectives. Love him by being a worthy conversationalist, a challenger, and a catalyst for his evolution.

2. Remind Him That Rest is His Birthright The world tells him he must always be in motion—grinding, proving, providing, producing. But love tells him he is worthy even in stillness. Let him know that his existence does not have to be a performance. Encourage his rest, his joy, his ease—without guilt. Love him by allowing him space to simply be.   

3. Hold Him Accountable out of Love, Not Judgment Love is not just admiration—it is care, and care sometimes means correction. If he is slipping into patterns that don’t serve him, if his actions don’t align with his highest self, remind him—gently but firmly. Not through shame, but through tender truth. Challenge him to rise, and do it with grace.

4. Let Him Transform Without Making Him Earn Your Approval The man he was at 21 will not be the man he is at 35. Growth is inevitable and is his right. Love him by making room for his evolution, by not forcing him into the version of himself that makes you most comfortable. He is not a monument—he is a living, breathing being, and love means embracing his metamorphosis.

5. Celebrate His Softness, Not Just His Strength Black men are praised when they are warriors but ignored when they are vulnerable. Love him in the spaces where the world does not—when he is tired, when he is tender, when he is learning how to let his guard down. Affirm the parts of him that aren’t “strong,” because even softness in a Black man is a revolution.

   

6. Be His Mirror, Not His Critic There will be moments when he doubts himself, when he questions his worth, when the world has drained him of confidence. In those moments, be his mirror, reflecting back the light he cannot see in himself. Speak life into him. Show him his greatness, not just when he is at his best, but even when he feels like he is at his worst.

7.  Create a Private Joy That Belongs to Just the You and Him The world does not let black men breathe. Love him by creating an inside world—a space where he can laugh, be silly, be free. Whether it’s inside jokes, little traditions, or sacred moments only the two of you understand, give him a safe place of joy that is untouched by the outside world.

8.  Make Room for His Dreams, Even Before They Manifest Black men are visionaries, yet their dreams are often met with doubt and distraction. Love him by believing in his visions, not just when they succeed, but when they are still in their fragile, unformed stages. Be the one who sees what he can become—even before he sees it himself.

9. Protect His Name as Fiercely as You Protect His Heart Love is more than affection—it is loyalty. In a world that often distorts and devalues Black men, refuse to let anyone diminish him in your presence. Whether in conversation, in media, or in social circles, be the one who speaks of him with dignity and who reminds the world that he is not a caricature—he is a human being; a man. 

10. Love Him for Who He Is, Not Just What He Can Do Black men are so used to being measured by their utility—what they can provide, how they can protect, what they bring to the table. But real love says: Even in your heaviest moments, when doubt forces you to believe lies and the weight of the world feels unbearable, remember this—you are still that man.

    
    

    TEN WAYS TO SHOW LOVE TO A BLACK WOMAN- CHUCK KING

    

      To deepen our bond with Black women, it's crucial for Black men to actively demonstrate their love and support. This applies not just to romantic relationships, marriages, and family connections, but also to everyday interactions with Black women in general. Daily acts of love and encouragement serve as reminders of the care and protection we owe them. Here are some meaningful ways to express our love to Black women:

    
    

    1. Holding Doors Although this traditional gesture has become less common, bringing it back is important. We often encounter Black women in our daily lives, and offering to hold the door is a simple yet impactful service. Even if declined, this act fosters trust within our community. Spending an extra 30 seconds to hold a door can help build positive relationships. It's essential for young Black girls and women to see this gesture as a sign of community support. It's never too late to establish new practices and values. 

    
    

    2. Compliments (Non-Physical) While some may view compliments about appearance as 

    flirtatious or inappropriate, compliments can go beyond physical traits. Recognize the 

    unique viewpoints, innovative ideas, or acts of kindness to celebrate their character.

    
    

    3. Community Defense Protecting our community is one of the most significant ways to show love to Black women. As Black men, we should always be the first line of defense. By being vigilant in our everyday environments, whether at the gas station or grocery store, we can create safe spaces for women and children. Sometimes, our mere presence can deter threats or offer much-needed support. 

    
    

    4. Thank You's Expressing gratitude to Black women, whether for their everyday presence or extraordinary actions, is vital. These acknowledgments serve as reminders of our appreciation for their existence and resilience.

    
    

    5. Caring for Elders Showing love to elderly women in the community mirrors the affection we have for grandmothers. Assist with tasks like taking out the trash or making simple repairs. This not only benefits them but also teaches younger generations the importance protecting and providing for our community. Offering transportation to appointments ensures their safety and well-being as well. 

    
    

    6. Provider Ensuring there is food on the table and gas in the tank goes beyond material provisions; it is a fundamental duty of Black men. This responsibility starts at home, where fathers exemplify what it means to provide. We must nurture and raise Black men to carry on this tradition of caring for the household. 

    
    

    

    
    

    7. Protector Being a safe haven for Black women is crucial in today’s challenging world. Just as men pledge their duty to their country, we must commit ourselves to the safety and well- being of Black women, protecting and defending them at all costs.

    
    

    8. Time Our most valuable asset is the time we share with Black women. Make the most of those moments.

    
    

    9. Honesty Establishing a foundation of honesty is vital for healing from past struggles within the Black family. Honesty nurtures trust and strengthens our connections with Black women, allowing for open communication about both positive and negative situations.

    
    

    10. Find Your Way We encourage you to explore, establish, and share your own unique ways 

    
    

    10 WAYS TO SHOW LOVE TO BLACK MEN- JAY RENE

    
    

    

    Of Black people on  all tiers of relationships. From mothers to daughters, fathers, and sons…. cousins,  brothers and sisters, friends and comrades.

    
    

        Many people will say that men and women cannot be platonic friends however, I am here to tell you that a platonic relationship between a Black man and woman is absolutely possible, and it is definitely necessary. In this revolutionary work, Black men and women must be able to work together and communicate effectively. Romance should not be  needed to achieve these things, however, genuine love for one another, compassion and  care, is.

     

         In this article, we will talk about 10 ways to show the Black Man love. 

    As we go day-to-day, we encounter many different Black men from different walks of life.  There has been a purposeful separation in the Black dynamic when it comes to Black men and women that is fueled by racism and an exploitation of negative narratives by way of social media. 

    
    

    Well, let’s bridge that gap. Let’s get into it. 

    
    

    1. Say Hello You would be surprised how such a small word can have such a big  

    impact in someone’s life. Often time we walk past each other, as if we don’t see  

    each other and that is a great misfortune. A polite hello with a genuine smile may  

    uplift a Brothers day. If we think back to the Panther days, the men and women  

    greeted each other with love and respect. It mattered. It created and care and  

    closeness that we need to truly thrive as a people.  

    
    

    2. Give A Compliment Now this doesn’t have to be a broad production or some  

    outlandish compliment. It could be something very simple. “Looking good today,   brother”, “I like your shirt” …. “You look nice today.” There’s nothing wrong with us complimenting each other, especially when in the past we were constantly put 

    down. Lift a Brother spirits. 

    
    

    3. Say Thank You If you’re out and about and a Black man holds the door for you or  

    allows you to go first or anything of that nature, say thank you. Not only because it’s  proper etiquette, but why not appreciate each other for the things that we do. If we  get in the habit of appreciating each other, it will close the gap that the world is trying to put between the Black man and woman, and it will close the gap that we  created within ourselves by not praising each other when we do good and focusing  only on the bad. When it comes to the Internet, the bad things are 10 times louder  so let our love for each other and appreciation be 10000 times louder. 

    
    

    4. Say Cheese A simple smile can boost each other’s day. Often we wear our  

    emotions in our sleeves or when we are in deep thought we scowl. Take a moment to smile while passing by. 

    
    

    5. Share Something Positive And the media today there are several instances where media of the Black Man is shared. That is extremely negative. When you see positive things come down your newsfeed about Black Men share them. This will help fight the negative stereotypes as well as uplift and motivate our Black Men.

    
    

    6. Make A Meal Some of our Black men are out here, tackling the world. May it be  

    several work hours or going to school or trying to double both. If you know a Black 

    man that is hard-working who you see doesn’t eat well, fix him a meal. Caring if 

    someone eats, is to care if they live and we must get back into caring about each  

    other as a whole. Caring if each other lives will make us better teammates and  

    keeps us compassionate with each other. 

    
    

    

    7. Defend Him If there is a Black man that you know that it’s getting a bad rap or if someone around you was talking negatively about the Black man in a stereotypical way, defend him. Tell them the positives that you know exist. Tell them the positives that you’ve experienced personally. We must find so much unity with each other  

    that when anyone talks about the other in our presence, it is grating into our ears.  

    We must love each other first.

    
    

    8. Share Their Work/Business If you know a Black man who has his own business or  

    does some time type of art such as painting, music, writing…. share their work.  

    Helping to promote one another not only promotes us economically but can build  

    feelings of togetherness and family.  

    
    

    9. Give A Listen Too many times our men are not given the opportunity to have  

    someone to vent to without being emasculated or disregarded. If a Black man in  

    your life is trusting you enough to share his most inner conversations, give a listen  

    and extend the same understanding you yourself would desire.

    
    

    10. Last But Not Least, Let Him Know If you have a Black man in your life, let him know  

    he is loved and appreciated, respected and cared for. The Black woman is the  

    ultimate boost to the Black man in many capacities